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Year-End Options for Giving to Charity

The desire to make a difference doesn't end when we're gone. For many people, incorporating charitable giving into their estate plan provides a way to support causes they care about while creating a lasting legacy. Whether you want to establish a scholarship fund, support medical research, or help your local community, thoughtful charitable planning can maximize your impact while potentially providing tax benefits for your heirs. 

Since this time of year invokes a desire to give to those less fortunate, and take advantage of tax benefits, let's explore how you can do that by including charitable giving in your Life & Legacy Plan.

Understanding Your Charitable Giving Options

When it comes to charitable giving through your estate plan, you have several options to consider. The key is finding the approach that best aligns with your values, goals, and overall estate planning strategy. Some common methods include:

Direct Bequests: The simplest way to include charity in your estate plan is through a direct bequest in your will or trust (“bequest” simply means leaving something to someone in your estate plan, whether it’s money or personal belongings). You can specify a fixed dollar amount or percentage of your estate to go to your chosen charitable organizations. This approach provides flexibility and can be easily modified if your circumstances change.

Note that for tax purposes generally, any charitable bequest (to a “qualified” charity per the IRS, typically a 501(c)(3) organization) is tax deductible and will reduce the tax liability of your estate. If you want to receive a tax deduction now, however, give an outright gift. In 2024 you can give up to $18,000 to each person or organization without having to report the gift to the IRS or pay gift tax. That number increases to $19,000 per donee in 2025.

Required Minimum Distributions with Qualified Charitable Distributions (QCDs). If you're over 70.5 (or have parents who are) and don't need your required minimum distributions (RMDs) from your retirement accounts to live on, here is a tax-saving, life-affirming strategy: Consider making a qualified charitable distribution (QCD) of your RMDs to a 501(c)(3) of your choosing before year-end, and lower your taxes, support your favorite cause or movement, and possibly kick yourself down into a lower tax bracket for your other taxable income. You can distribute up to $105,000 (2024) or $108,000 (2025) directly to a 501(c)(3) public charity of your choice. 

Charitable Trusts: For those with larger estates, charitable trusts offer sophisticated ways to benefit both charity and your heirs. A charitable remainder trust can provide income to your beneficiaries for a set period, with the remaining assets going to charity. Conversely, a charitable lead trust can provide income to charity for a period, with the remainder going to your beneficiaries. Note that charitable trusts are typically used to save money on capital gains tax as part of a sale transaction.

Donor-Advised Funds: A donor-advised fund (or DAF) is a way to make charitable contributions during your lifetime to a fund that is then invested and managed by a fund manager, and as the donor, you are able to recommend grants to your favorite charities over time. When using a DAF, you can name successor advisors, enabling your children or other loved ones to continue your charitable legacy through your DAF after you're gone. Gifting to a donor-advised fund is similar to gifting to a family foundation but with minimal administrative time or energy required. On the flip-side, DAFs are often not used as intentionally as they could be. If you have a DAF, or want to set one up, let’s discuss what I mean by this so you can be sure to use yours as intentionally as possible. 

Family Foundation: For families with more significant assets, and a desire to govern and control the use of those assets, while also creating a lasting legacy, the private family foundation is the way to go. With a private foundation, you control the investments, the governance, the distributions, and can use the foundation as a multi-generational educational tool for the family.

Making Your Charitable Giving More Effective

To ensure your charitable giving achieves maximum impact, consider these important factors:

Tax Implications: While tax benefits shouldn't be the primary motivation for charitable giving, proper planning can help reduce estate taxes and maximize the impact of your gifts. Certain charitable giving strategies as discussed above, can provide immediate income tax benefits during your lifetime while reducing estate taxes after your death.

Timing of Gifts: Consider whether making charitable gifts during your lifetime might be more beneficial than waiting until after your death. Lifetime giving allows you to see the impact of your generosity and may provide immediate tax benefits. 

Selection of Charities: Research potential charitable recipients carefully. Look for organizations with strong track records of effectively using donations to advance their missions. Consider whether you want to support large national organizations or smaller local charities.

Involving Your Family

Charitable giving through your estate plan can do more than just support worthy causes – it can help instill philanthropic values in future generations. Consider these approaches:

Family Discussions: Talk with your family about your charitable intentions and the causes that matter to you. These conversations can help your loved ones understand your values and motivations while potentially inspiring their own charitable giving.

Collaborative Decision-Making: If you establish a donor-advised fund or family foundation, involve your children or grandchildren in grant-making decisions. This hands-on experience can help them develop their own philanthropic interests while carrying forward your legacy.

Educational Opportunities: Use your charitable giving as a teaching tool to help younger family members learn about financial responsibility, social issues, and the importance of giving back to the community.

Creating Your Charitable Giving Plan

As your Personal Family Lawyer®, I can help you develop a comprehensive charitable giving strategy that aligns with your overall estate planning goals. I'll work with you to:

  • Identify the charitable causes most important to you
  • Select the most appropriate giving vehicles for your situation
  • Structure your giving to maximize tax benefits
  • Ensure your charitable intentions are properly documented
  • Create a plan for involving future generations

We'll also help you maintain flexibility in your plan, recognizing that charitable organizations and family circumstances can change over time.

While estate planning often focuses on what happens after we're gone, charitable giving allows you to start building your legacy today. By thoughtfully incorporating philanthropy into your Life & Legacy Plan, you can create positive change that extends far beyond your lifetime while potentially providing tax benefits for your loved ones.

How We Help You Create a Meaningful Legacy

As a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm, we help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that includes charitable giving strategies aligned with your values and goals. We'll work together to ensure your philanthropic wishes are properly documented and structured for maximum impact, while keeping your family out of court and conflict. With your charitable giving plan in place, you can rest easy knowing you've created a meaningful legacy that will benefit both your loved ones and the causes you care about most.

Click here to schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation and learn how we can help you create your charitable giving legacy.

This article is a service of a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That's why we offer a Life & Legacy PlanningⓇ Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session.

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

Proper estate planning can keep your family out of conflict, out of court, and out of the public eye. If you’re ready to create a comprehensive estate plan, contact us to schedule your Planning Session. Even if you already have a plan in place, we will review it and help you bring it up to date to avoid heartache for your family. Schedule online today.

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Court Ruling Halts Corporate Transparency Act: What You Need to Know

A federal judge in Texas issued a ruling this week that could affect millions of business owners across the country. Let's break down what this means for you and your business.

The Ruling and Its Immediate Impact

On December 3, 2024, a federal court issued a nationwide preliminary injunction blocking the Corporate Transparency Act (CTA) and its associated Reporting Rule. This means the January 1, 2025 deadline for beneficial ownership reporting has been suspended. If you were scrambling to gather your company's ownership information for the new federal reporting requirements, you can take a breath and pause on your filing - at least for now. If you already filed, there’s nothing you need to do.

Why Did This Happen?

The court found that the CTA likely exceeds Congress's constitutional authority. While the government argued that the law was necessary to combat financial crimes, the court determined that Congress may have overstepped its bounds in creating these reporting requirements.

The ruling affects approximately 32.6 million companies that would have been required to report their ownership information to the Financial Crimes Enforcement Network (FinCEN). This includes most small businesses, LLCs, and corporations in the United States.

What This Means For Your Business

For now, the CTA's reporting requirements have been put on hold. However, this is a preliminary injunction, which means:

  • The ruling could be appealed
  • The requirements could be reinstated
  • The law could be modified to address constitutional concerns

Stay tuned, and we’ll keep you posted as new information becomes available.

Looking Ahead

As your Personal Family Lawyer® Firm, we're monitoring this situation closely. While this ruling provides temporary relief from reporting requirements, it's important to stay prepared. We can help you understand how these changes might affect your business and ensure you're ready to comply if the requirements are reinstated.

Book a call with us here to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session and discuss how we can help protect your business interests.

This article is a service of a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That's why we offer a comprehensive Life & Legacy Planning Session™, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session™.

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® Firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

Proper estate planning can keep your family out of conflict, out of court, and out of the public eye. If you’re ready to create a comprehensive estate plan, contact us to schedule your Planning Session. Even if you already have a plan in place, we will review it and help you bring it up to date to avoid heartache for your family. Schedule online today.

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Common Estate Planning Questions Part 2 of 2

When it comes to planning for your family's future, the options can feel overwhelming. Should you get a will? Create a trust? And what happens if you do nothing at all? These aren't just academic questions - your choices today will impact your loved ones tomorrow. In this second installment of a two-part Q & A series, I’ll break down the key differences between your primary estate planning options and explore practical ways to ensure your family is protected, no matter what the future holds. So, let’s dive in, beginning with a question about the basic estate planning documents.

Q: What is the difference between a will, living trust, and dying intestate? And what does that mean, practically speaking?

A: If you die without an estate plan, you do have a plan - it’s just the plan chosen for you by the state, and you may not like it. Almost certainly, your loved ones won’t like it because it means they’ll likely need to deal with a court process called “probate.” When you die without a will, it’s called dying “ intestate,” and it means that your assets are distributed according to state law after a process in which a judge decides who gets what. This could mean your assets would not go to the people you choose in the way you choose, and your family could face a lengthy, expensive, and public court process during an already difficult time.

A will is your basic instruction manual for what happens to your assets after you die, but it still requires your family to go through the probate process. While a will allows you to name guardians for your minor children and specify who gets what, your “executor” or “personal representative” must file the will with the court and potentially wait months or even years before receiving your assets. Plus, everything becomes public record - so anyone can look up what you owned and who got what, leaving the inheritors open to predators. 

If you create a trust, your assets can be passed to the people you choose without a court process and completely privately. Think of a trust like a container that holds your assets during your lifetime and then, upon your incapacity or death, a successor trustee you’ve named can step in to handle your assets, manage your affairs, and pass your assets to your chosen beneficiaries. With a properly funded trust, your beneficiaries could receive their inheritance within weeks or months instead of months or years.

Q: Is probate always required when someone dies?

A: The necessity of probate depends largely on how your assets are titled when you die and the total value of assets that are in your personal name at the time of your death. Assets that are solely in your name with no beneficiary designation must go through probate, and the distribution must be ordered by a Judge. There are some exceptions: jointly owned property automatically passes to the surviving owner, assets with named beneficiaries (like life insurance policies and retirement accounts) go directly to those beneficiaries, and assets held in a properly funded living trust transfer according to the trust's instructions, without court involvement.

These issues can be complicated and have a huge impact on your loved ones, so it’s important to work with a trusted advisor who can help you understand your goals, and then properly structure your assets to accomplish your goals, especially if you want to keep your family out of court and out of conflict. Keep reading to find out how I can help.

Q: What if I’m uncomfortable talking about death and money?

A: While it's completely natural to want to avoid thinking about death and avoid talking about money, not planning for the reality of death or a possible incapacity before death can leave your loved ones with an expensive, time-consuming mess to clean up during what will already be an emotionally difficult time. Here's what you absolutely must know: First, if you become incapacitated or die without a plan, the court will make all the decisions about your care and your assets according to state law, not according to what you would have chosen.

Second, if you have minor children and no estate plan, the court will decide who raises your children and who takes care of the assets you leave behind, all without your input. Think about that for a moment. A judge is a complete stranger to you and your kids, yet that’s who will decide your children’s future - who makes decisions about their education, their health matters, and their financial affairs. And, then, whatever you leave behind and whatever is left after the court process goes to your children when they turn 18, without protection (i.e., they’ll be free to spend it all as quickly as they want). If that concerns you, you need a plan of your own.

Third, your family will likely have to spend significantly more time and money dealing with your affairs if you don't have a plan in place than if you had taken the time to create one. The good news is that creating a plan doesn't have to be overwhelming or uncomfortable—working with a trusted advisor who can guide you through the process step by step can actually bring you peace of mind, knowing you've taken care of the people you love.

Q: How can you minimize the stress to your family by handling these matters in the simplest way possible?

A: The best way to minimize stress for your family is to create a clear, comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan before anything happens to you. Many people think creating an estate plan will be stressful, but it's actually the lack of planning that creates the most stress for families. 

When you work with me as your Personal Family Lawyer®, I make the process simple:

First, I help you get clear about what you own and what would happen to everything you own and everyone you love (including yourself) when something happens to you. Then, I support you to make informed, empowered choices about who should receive your assets, who should be in charge of carrying out your wishes, and how you want it all handled. Finally, I help ensure your plan will actually work when your family needs it by supporting you to review your plan regularly as your life changes and ensuring we maintain an updated inventory of your assets to ensure none of your assets are lost to the state due to oversight, after your death.

Beyond creating the right legal documents, I’ll support you in other ways to make things easier for your loved ones. I’ll help you document specific wishes you have for personal items with sentimental value and to have conversations with your loved ones about your choices so there are no surprises later. We’ll conduct a Life & Legacy Interview so you can pass on your values, insights, and stories - the intangible (and most important) assets that are often lost when someone dies. Most importantly, I will be there for your family when you can't be there, to guide them through the process and ensure your wishes are carried out properly. This is the power of our Life & Legacy Planning® process.

How We Help You Create Peace of Mind

As your Personal Family Lawyer® Firm, we understand that thinking about death and money can feel overwhelming. That's why we've created a simple, step-by-step process to help you get your affairs in order and ensure your family is protected. Our Life & Legacy Planning process goes beyond just creating legal documents - we help you make informed decisions about your family's future, keep your plan updated as your life changes, and ensure your wishes will be carried out properly when the time comes. Most importantly, we'll be there for your family when you can't be, providing the guidance and support they'll need during a difficult time. You'll gain peace of mind knowing you've done everything possible to make things easier for the people you love.

Click here to schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn more about how we can help.

This article is a service of a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That's why we offer a comprehensive Life & Legacy Planning Session™, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session™.

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® Firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

Proper estate planning can keep your family out of conflict, out of court, and out of the public eye. If you’re ready to create a comprehensive estate plan, contact us to schedule your Planning Session. Even if you already have a plan in place, we will review it and help you bring it up to date to avoid heartache for your family. Schedule online today.

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Common Estate Planning Questions Part 1 of 2 – On How to Handle Your Assets

When it comes to estate planning, I get many questions about many topics. One of the most common questions I hear concerns account ownership and asset management. Understanding how accounts are titled and who has access to them isn't just about convenience—it's about ensuring your assets transfer smoothly to your loved ones while protecting them from potential risks.

In this first installment of a two-part series, I’ll answer the most common questions about asset ownership and management. I’ll also outline ways in which you can make things as easy for your family after your death. So let’s dive in, beginning with a question about joint assets.

Q: What's the difference between joint ownership and transfer-on-death designation?

A: Joint ownership means both parties have full access to and ownership of a specific  account or piece of real estate, while living. When one owner dies, the surviving owner automatically receives full ownership. This can be convenient but comes with risks - a joint owner can withdraw all the money at any time, and the account could be vulnerable to either joint owner’s creditors or legal judgments.

On the other hand, transfer-on-death (TOD) or payable-on-death (POD) beneficiary designations give you sole control during your lifetime. Your designated beneficiary has no access or rights to the account while you're alive but receives the assets automatically upon your death. This arrangement prevents another person from accessing your assets while you’re alive and also avoids the court process (called probate) after you die.

One important note: When you have a joint owner on your account, or a designated beneficiary, that person will receive all the funds after you die, no matter how old they are or what your family dynamics are. This can create conflict in your family or can cause someone who’s fiscally irresponsible to potentially inherit a windfall with no safeguards. Lawsuits are filed all the time by disgruntled siblings who find out that the caretaker sibling receives all the money in a parent’s account (or sole title to real estate) rather than being distributed equally among all siblings. If this is a concern to you, read on to find out how you can book a call with me to learn about your options.

Q: If I hold my property jointly, or use a TOD or POD, do I need to have a Trust?

If you use joint ownership or TOD/POD instead of a Trust, you need to consider some traps for the unwary. First, as indicated above, jointly owned property could be at risk from creditors of either party. I think of my client, granddaughter, who was titled on grandma’s bank account. When granddaughter’s husband didn’t pay the bill on the copier contract for his business, the copier company sued and got a judgment against him. Next thing you know, grandma’s account gets garnished because it was held jointly with granddaughter, and granddaughter was liable on the copier judgment.

Suppose you use a TOD or POD to avoid a scenario like that. In that case, the problem is that the TOD/POD only operates in the event of death, not incapacity, and TOD/POD could result in the wrong person ending up getting the assets or the assets ending up in probate if there is an unexpected “order of death” issue. Imagine, grandma leaves house to grandson using TOD, but grandma and grandson are in the car together when there’s an accident, and grandson dies first, with grandma dying shortly thereafter, and before she could change the TOD/POD. Who gets the property, and how? In this case, the property would have to go through probate and pass to grandma’s “next of kin” according to the state intestacy statutes. Given that grandma was leaving her property to grandson, it’s likely she didn’t want the “state’s plan” for her assets. But, that’s what she’ll end up with.

The solution is not to use joint ownership or a TOD/POD to pass title to assets at your death. Instead, set up a trust and retitle the property, and everything can be handled with ease, privately, and in our office, for the people you love.

Q: What happens to retirement accounts and life insurance policies after death?

A: These accounts pass directly to your named beneficiaries, bypassing probate and any instructions in your will, as long as you have named beneficiaries, and if you haven’t named a minor as a beneficiary This is why keeping your beneficiary designations up to date is crucial. If your beneficiary designations are outdated – listing an ex-spouse or deceased person, for example – your assets might not go where you want them to. Even worse, if you have no beneficiary listed, these accounts would go through probate, costing your loved ones unnecessary time and money. If you’ve named a minor as a beneficiary, the assets will be subject to a court process to hold the assets under court order until your minor beneficiary is “of age” - usually 18 or 21, depending on state law.

Q: Do I need an inventory of my assets?

A: Yes, and it’s critically important that you create an inventory and keep it up to date. We include this in all of our planning options because it’s one of the most important parts of the planning process, even though, surprisingly, it’s not part of most estate planning with traditional lawyers or legal insurance plans. Our process, called Life & Legacy PlanningⓇ, includes an asset inventory because if you don’t inventory your assets, your family will not know what you have, how to find it, and how to get access to it as easily and affordably as possible.  Lost assets end up in your state’s treasury as unclaimed property. According to the National Association of Unclaimed Property Administrators, approximately 1 in 7 people in the U.S. - or about 33 million people - have unclaimed property, totaling approximately $77 billion dollars. If you want to ensure that your assets go to the people or charities you want rather than to your state government’s unclaimed property fund, you need an asset inventory. And it must stay up to date.

Q: How often should I review my asset inventory and account designations?

A: Your inventory and beneficiary designations need to be kept up to date over time so they reflect your current circumstances when you die. My Life & Legacy Planning process includes regular, ongoing reviews of your asset inventory so no asset ever gets lost. 

It’s also important to update your asset inventory and account designations whenever you experience a major life event such as:

  • Marriage or divorce
  • Birth or adoption of a child
  • Death of a beneficiary
  • Purchase or sale of significant assets
  • Moving to a new state
  • Starting a business
  • Retirement

When you work with me, you won’t have to remember this on your own. I’ll proactively remind you to update your inventory and beneficiary designations and help make it as easy as possible for you to take action.

Q: What's the best way to organize and store my asset information?

A: Create a clear, organized system that your loved ones can easily access if something happens to you. However, be careful about including sensitive information like passwords in your will, as it becomes public record after death. Instead, consider keeping this information in a secure location and telling your trusted family members, executor, or trust administrator how to access it. I will help you explore options for the best way to do this when we work together.

How We Help You Get Organized and Protected

As your Personal Family Lawyer® Firm, we help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that includes a complete asset inventory, proper account titling, and coordinated beneficiary designations. We'll help you understand the implications of different ownership structures and guide you in making the best choices for your family's unique situation. Plus, we'll help you keep everything updated through regular reviews, ensuring your plan continues to work as intended. You’ll gain peace of mind knowing that your assets will go to the people you want in the way you want.

Click here to schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation to learn more.

This article is a service of a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That's why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning Session™, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session™.

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

Proper estate planning can keep your family out of conflict, out of court, and out of the public eye. If you’re ready to create a comprehensive estate plan, contact us to schedule your Planning Session. Even if you already have a plan in place, we will review it and help you bring it up to date to avoid heartache for your family. Schedule online today.

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Lessons from Tony Bennett’s Estate Battle

When legendary singer Tony Bennett passed away in July 2023, he left behind an estimated $100 million estate and, unfortunately, a family divide threatening to tarnish his legacy. His daughters Antonia and Johanna Bennett are now suing their brother, Danny, who serves as trustee of their father's estate, alleging a lack of transparency and potential mismanagement of assets. Let's explore what went wrong and how you can protect your family from suffering the same fate.

Background

A complex legal battle is unfolding in the New York Supreme Court, where Tony Bennett's daughters Johanna and Antonia have filed suit against their brother Danny, who serves as trustee of their father's estate. The lawsuit raises alarming questions about the management of Bennett's assets. While the legendary singer earned over $100 million from live performances in his final 15 years, his daughters were told the estate was valued at less than $7 million.

The dispute centers around Danny's role as both trustee and former manager. In July 2022, Danny orchestrated the sale of Bennett's memorabilia, personal property, and name and likeness rights to Iconoclast, a company specializing in legacy works. The daughters allege they were kept in the dark about which assets were included in this deal and have received only "a modest distribution." They also claim Danny received $1.2 million in loans from their father in 2020 and lifetime gifts totaling $4.2 million - more than double what Bennett's other children received.

Making matters worse, when Johanna and Antonia were finally allowed to visit their father's apartment in 2024, they discovered many of his personal belongings were either missing or declared off-limits due to the Iconoclast sale. They learned that most of their father's clothing had been donated to charity without their knowledge, despite these items being specifically bequeathed to Bennett's children in the trust. An auction of Bennett's belongings was held in April 2024, but his daughters allege they were largely "kept in the dark" about the details and had to rush to identify which items they wanted to keep.

Court filings also state that the trust was established in 1994, but we don’t know if it was ever reviewed and updated over time. We also cannot know if Mr. Bennett was ever advised about the potential disputes that could arise from naming one of his children as his sole trustee and administrator of the estate.

Why Family May Not Be the Best Choice

Like Mr. Bennett, many people select family members to administer their estate after they die. They trust family members and assume they’ll do the right thing. Or they haven’t been properly advised about the potential consequences of naming a family member as the estate administrator. However, as the Bennett lawsuit teaches, family members aren’t always the right people for the job. Here are several common issues that arise when family members serve as trustees:

Power Imbalance: Having one sibling control their siblings' inheritance creates an uncomfortable dynamic and breeds an environment of distrust. 

Dual Roles: Danny's position as both trustee and former manager created a potential conflict of interest. Questions about decisions and motivations often arise when personal and professional roles overlap.

Transparency Issues: The significant discrepancy between known earnings and reported estate value raises red flags about financial transparency – a crucial element of trust administration.

Emotional Complications: Family relationships can cloud judgment and make it difficult to maintain the objectivity required of a trustee.

If you’re concerned about family conflict after you die, consult with a trusted advisor who can educate you about the potential ramifications of your decision and guide you to choose the right person—whether a family member or not. As a Personal Family LawyerⓇ, my priority is helping you make the process as easy on your loved ones as possible and giving you peace of mind that you’ve done everything you can to keep your family out of court and conflict.

How to Prevent a Similar Conflict in Your Family

The primary way to prevent conflict in your family, after your incapacity or death, is to start courageous conversations with your family now. Conflict occurs when people are surprised about choices made by a loved one that are only revealed after it’s too late to gain understanding. Deep grief combined with surprise is a volatile combination. The best way to save your loved ones from this fate is to communicate often, and early. If you’ve created your plan with my office and desire me to host a family meeting, reach out and let’s get it scheduled. If you have not yet created your plan, let’s start there.

If for some reason, you do not believe you can get your loved ones on the same page, I sometimes recommend choosing a non-family member, or professional, as your Successor Trustee. A professional or corporate trustee, for instance, can provide the objective oversight needed to maintain family harmony while ensuring proper estate administration. In fact, this might have been a better choice for the Bennett family from the start.

However, if you strongly prefer having a family member serve as trustee, you can implement additional safeguards if you have an effective estate plan in place. An effective plan may include adding co-trustees or creating independent oversight mechanisms to help ensure transparency and accountability. It might mean appointing a professional advisor to review major decisions or requiring regular external audits of estate administration. 

Finally, make sure your chosen trustee has access to proper professional support. Managing an estate requires complex legal and financial knowledge that most family members don't possess. That’s why my Life & Legacy Planning process has built-in mechanisms to ensure your chosen representatives will always have help from me when they need it. But ongoing support for your family is rarely a part of a typical estate plan.

Essential Elements of an Effective Estate Plan

Creating an estate plan that truly protects your family requires careful consideration. It requires guidance on how to pick the right representative for you and your loved ones. It requires proper documentation of assets, including detailed records of everything from real estate to intellectual property rights. It requires clear distribution guidelines. It also involves transparency to help maintain family trust and prevent disputes from arising.

However, if you create a DIY plan, use a cheap online service, use a financial advisor who offers estate planning services, or if you work with a traditional estate planning attorney, these elements will most likely not be in your plan. Instead, you need a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that will work when you need it to.

When you work with me to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan, I will help you:

  • Choose the right trustee for your situation;
  • Create systems for transparent asset management;
  • Establish clear communication protocols;
  • Protect family relationships from conflicts;
  • Document your wishes on video or an audio file so your family understands precisely what you want;
  • If you have minor children, gain peace of mind knowing that they will never be taken into the care of strangers if something happens to you; and
  • Review and update your plan regularly to account for changes in family dynamics, assets, and life circumstances. 

We cannot know whether Mr. Bennett was advised of the potential consequences of naming his son to serve as trustee, or whether he was given proper guidance on what he could have done to keep his family out of court and conflict. But when you work with me to create a Life & Legacy Plan, I’ll support you to create a plan that leaves a legacy of love and peace, not discord and strife.

How We Help You Create a Plan That Works

As your Personal Family Lawyer®, we help you create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that protects your assets and preserves family harmony. We'll help you address potential conflicts before they arise, ensure your wishes are clearly documented, create a framework for managing your assets even if you become incapacitated, and be there for your chosen representatives when you cannot be. We’ll also review your plan with you on a regular basis so your plan works when you and your family need it to.

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This article is a service of a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That's why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning Session™, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session™.

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Proper estate planning can keep your family out of conflict, out of court, and out of the public eye. If you’re ready to create a comprehensive estate plan, contact us to schedule your Planning Session. Even if you already have a plan in place, we will review it and help you bring it up to date to avoid heartache for your family. Schedule online today.

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Beyond the Turkey: How Thanksgiving Can Inspire Your Family Legacy Planning

As Thanksgiving approaches, many families are busy planning menus, coordinating travel, and preparing for the big feast. While the turkey, stuffing, and pumpkin pie are important (and delicious) traditions, this cherished holiday offers something even more valuable—a perfect opportunity to think about, discuss, and preserve your family's legacy. 

In this article, you'll discover practical ways to capture family stories during your holiday gathering, learn how to start meaningful legacy conversations without awkwardness and understand how to transform these precious moments into a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan that protects your family's values and assets for generations to come. This year, consider using your Thanksgiving gathering as a springboard for the meaningful conversations that can shape your family's future.

The Heart of Legacy Planning: More Than Just Money

When most people think about legacy planning, they often focus solely on financial assets. But true legacy planning encompasses much more. It's about preserving your family's stories, values, traditions, and the wisdom gained through generations. After working with families to support them with their estate planning and being there at the end of life, I’ve learned that these are the things that matter most. Values, insights, stories, and experiences, plus sentimental items, are almost always more important to families than financial assets, though, of course, money matters as well.

Those moments around the Thanksgiving table, sharing old family recipes, telling stories about ancestors, or discussing what matters most to your family, are the building blocks of a meaningful legacy. The Thanksgiving holiday, with its focus on gratitude and family togetherness, provides an ideal setting to explore these deeper aspects of your legacy.

Using Holiday Gatherings to Plan for the Future

With a little planning, Thanksgiving can be a great time to discuss the future. These conversations don't have to be formal or heavy—they can emerge naturally from your holiday interactions:

Talk About Family Values: When expressing gratitude (a Thanksgiving tradition), encourage family members to share what they value most about being part of the family. These discussions can help inform how you structure your estate plan to reflect and perpetuate these values.

Discuss Family Philanthropy: If giving back is important to your family, use this time to talk about causes that matter to everyone. This can lead to meaningful discussions about charitable giving and how to incorporate it into your legacy plan.

Address Family Dynamics: Holiday gatherings often reveal family dynamics that should be considered in your estate planning. Who are the peacemakers? Who might need additional support? Understanding these dynamics can help you create a plan that promotes family harmony rather than conflict.

Bring Up Your Own Planning: If you’ve recently completed your own estate planning process, or plan to before the end of the year, or early next year, this is a great time to bring up your plans. Consider saying: “Because I want to make sure that everything is as easy as it can be for you all, if something happens to me, I’m doing/did a kind of estate planning called Life & Legacy Planning, and I’d love to share about it with you because you’ll all be impacted. Are you open to having a conversation about that, and what we all want to happen for ourselves if we become incapacitated or when we die?”

Understanding your family's values, philanthropic interests, and dynamics isn't just about having nice conversations—it's about gathering crucial information that will help you create a Life & Legacy Plan that truly serves your family and preserves harmony for generations to come. For more information about Life & Legacy Planning, book a call with us using the link below.

Capturing Your Family's Story

Thanksgiving can encourage storytelling. As families gather and reminisce, precious memories and important family history often emerge. But without intentional effort to preserve these stories, they can be lost to time. Here are some ways to capture these valuable moments:

Record Your Family's Food Heritage: That special stuffing recipe from your grandmother isn't just about ingredients—it's about family history. Document not just the recipe but the story behind it. Why is it important? How has it been adapted over generations? Who taught it to whom? If your relative is still alive, consider asking them to write out the recipe with important notes. Having something in their handwriting can be very special for the younger generations.

Create a Family Interview Tradition: Designate time after dinner for family interviews. Have younger family members ask older ones about their childhood, important life lessons, or family history. Record these conversations (with permission) using your phone or video camera. It doesn’t have to be complicated.

Share Family Artifacts: Bring out old family photos, letters, or heirlooms. These physical items often spark stories and discussions about family history and values. Use these moments to explain why certain items are meaningful and what they represent in your family's journey.

My Life & Legacy Planning process includes a legacy interview, so your family’s traditions are captured. Keep reading to find out how to book a call with me to learn more.

Making Legacy Planning Part of Your Holiday Tradition

The key to successful legacy planning is making it an ongoing process, not a one-time event. Consider establishing new Thanksgiving traditions that support this goal. Here are a few ideas:

Create a Family Time Capsule: Each year, have family members contribute something meaningful to a time capsule—letters, photos, or small items that represent the year's important moments.

Start a Family Mission Statement: Work together to create and update a family mission statement that reflects your shared values and goals. This can guide both current decisions and future legacy planning.

Document Family Medical History: While families are together, take time to update your family medical history. This information is crucial for future generations and can inform healthcare decisions.

Remember that legacy planning isn't a one-time task but an ongoing journey that can be woven into your family's holiday traditions each year. By incorporating these intentional practices into every Thanksgiving gathering, you create a natural way to capture and preserve what matters most while building a stronger foundation for your family's future.

How We Help You Create a Lasting Legacy

While Thanksgiving conversations are valuable for legacy planning, they're just the beginning. To truly protect your family's legacy and ensure your wishes are carried out, you need professional guidance and support to create a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan. Our Life & Legacy Planning process goes beyond traditional estate planning to capture not just your assets, but your values, wisdom, and family story. As your Personal Family LawyerⓇ firm, we help ensure that the conversations you have around the Thanksgiving table become part of a lasting legacy that benefits generations to come.

Take the first step toward preserving your family's legacy. Click here to schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation and learn how we can help.

This article is a service of a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That's why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning Session™, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session™.

The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer® firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

Proper estate planning can keep your family out of conflict, out of court, and out of the public eye. If you’re ready to create a comprehensive estate plan, contact us to schedule your Planning Session. Even if you already have a plan in place, we will review it and help you bring it up to date to avoid heartache for your family. Schedule online today.

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